Yesterday was Girls’ Generation’s 7th Anniversary as a group. I might not be a fan of them since their debut seven years ago, when they were still innocent girls who stunned the whole South Korea with Into the New World’s kick. It might not even be a year yet for me to be their fan, but despite of my lack of emotional ties with the girls but I’m going to take this chance to reflect on what SONEs have been doing so far.
As I’ve mentioned here and many times before, it hasn’t been that long since I’ve been a fan of Girls’ Generation (GG). That’s why even though I’m cherishing their anniversary, I’m not as emotional as other SONEs, who cried yesterday when they watched videos of GG’s debut stage in Inkigayo seven years ago; reminiscing about the memories they’ve had all these years.
A lot of people (by people I mean senior SONEs) have admitted that 2014 is a year of trial for GG. The year started when Yoona’s dating news with Lee SeungGi broke out, and in mere days, it was followed by Sooyoung’s dating news with Jo Kyung Ho. Not long after that, a shocking statement from the company’s CEO saying that SNSD will be replaced by a new group came out. As if the statement was not discouraging enough, other dating news came out, stating that Tiffany has been dating Nichkhun (a member of 2PM) and Taeyeon dating Baekhyun (a member of EXO). All of those shocking news came out when 2014 was still halfway through, and who knows what kind of news SONEs will have to overcome the rest of the year.
Some SONEs were very disappointed that the news came out that they reacted in ways that I think was quite, sorry to say this, reckless or even stupid. Some fanfic writers stopped writing because the couples they shipped were broken because the member was dating. A girl was cutting her own hand because she was really disappointed that the couple she was shipping was dating other guys instead of each other. A fan was spamming on one of the guy’s Twitter account because s/he doesn’t approve him dating one of the members.
To those people, I say: what the frack are you doing?
As silly as this might sound, those news didn’t have as much impact on me as it was on the other SONEs. Call me ignorant or anything, but for me the news were mere strategies by SM to gain something, like, I don’t know, some profits? I might be a bit down when the news came out, but not because the members were dating, but because (some of them) are dating the wrong person. But even that doesn’t change the fact that I’m still fangirling over Taeyeon’s dorky pictures or Fany’s eye-smile.
Since when do fans dictate what the idols have to do? Yes, one of the reasons why idols are successful was because of the fans, but does that make us their God? Does that give us the right to dictate their lives?
In some interviews, some of the members have voiced their concerns about them dating. As young girls in the peak of their beauty, of course they want to go on dates. They are more than ready, but they have to hold back because they know the fans couldn’t accept that. Even after the news came out, the dating couples couldn’t go out on dates because the spotlights are on them. They would rather stay in their dorm, ordering food, instead of going on real dates like what couples their age supposed to do.
Doesn’t it hurt you that the people you care about have to sacrifice their own well-beings because of your selfish needs for them to stay single forever, just to give you that little spark of hope that by some sort of miracle you could have your idols to yourself and run towards the sunset together?
In all honesty, I was quite broken when Taeyeon’s dating news came out, with Baekhyun of all people. She was the reason why I was into SNSD in the first place, and the news crushed me. Even if now I’m more of a Sunshiner (Sunny’s fan) than a Taeganger (Taeyeon’s fan), the news still brought me down.
No, it’s not because she’s “dating” an EXO member, but because of the consequence she has to endure. A few hours after the news was out, her Instagram account was flooded with harsh comments like “f*ck you”, and people saying that she’s a wh*re and all that. Regardless of the news was real or not, she doesn’t deserve that kind of treatment. For years of her building her singing career, her fans were praising her voice and her beautiful face, saying that she’s a Korean Diva. Then her “dating” news came out and BOOM, she’s a whore.
I know a lot of Taeganger and Baekhyun fans were disappointed. I think I would be too if the day comes when Sunny’s dating news came out, and the guy doesn’t deserve her. But who are we to decide who are good for them or not? It’s their lives, not ours. Yes, we would kill the guys who have broken our girls’ hearts, but that doesn’t make it okay for us to just bash the guys who date them. It’s their choice, and the best thing we can do is just congratulate them and hope that the guy was not a douche.
In a recent show, one of Sunny’s statements ‘enlightened’ me. In that show she was asked by the MC what kind of future does she want to go, not as Sunny, but as Lee SoonGyu (her real name). Her answer slapped me hard in the face.
“That’s hard question. Even I don’t know how Lee SoonGyu will live. I don’t remember living as Lee SoonGyu very well. I don’t even know very well yet what Lee SoonGyu likes or what she should do. That day will come, right, when I’ll need to live as Lee SoonGyu again. I think when that time comes I’ll need to search from then on what Lee SoonGyu likes and is good at. I probably won’t be able to return to that. I’ll be remembered and known as Sunny, so I can’t go back. However, once in a while, I miss Lee SoonGyu.”
Most of her life, she “acted” as Sunny, that she started to forgot who she really is. She’s not even sure if she knows what she really likes and dislikes. For me, it’s quite sad to know that an idol would go that far to please the fan, to be the figure that the fans could admire. I think this applies to the other members, not only Sunny.
Seven years is not a short time for a K-Pop idol, especially for a girl group. Of course we should congratulate and thank them for keeping the group for so long, and for being such hard-workers for us fans. But more than that, I think SONEs also need to reflect on themselves more as fans. Have we been good to them? Knowing that our idol would go that far for us, the least we can do as a fan is to support them no matter what. That would be a good start, and more than any gifts, our idols would appreciate that more.
This kind of reminder also applies to me, though. I have been learning to accept the fact that one day Sunny and Taeyeon would get married. Truthfully speaking, I’m still not ready yet if it would happen, say, next year. But I do sincerely hope that no matter what happens the group would still be there, performing their songs in front of their fans, creating more albums even with the increasing numbers of their individual activities.
Above anything else, that’s my wish as a SONE. I hope that’s not too much to ask. After all, all SONEs want to dream forever with GG right?